Making Choices

Does this choice make you larger or smaller? Does it close you down or open you up? Make you resentful and bitter or softer? Or critical or more generous? Will this suffering make me wiser or stupid? Meet these questions with curiosity. What is it to be human? Everything is an experiment. Thinking this way gives you the freedom to fail. To test things out. Remember that it is the process that is important not the outcome. Let go of the judgment around it. Ask yourself am I being kind?

Difficult feelings such as anger, resentment and rage are teachers. Ask yourself why am I behaving this way? Investigate the feeling underneath the original feeling with kindness and curiosity.

Letting Go

Often times we don’t know what we need to let go of in order to move forward. Things that that were useful when we were young and have become adaptive strategies, can stop working and hold you back.  Sometimes we need to let go of our habit of trying to solidify the future and our expectations and just be open to the possibilities of life. Being fixed on one idea can close you off to all the other possibilities around you. Sometimes it’s a matter of letting go of the constant need for approval. Self-judgements, moralizing, harshness, shame and deception can surround the thing we need to let go of. Sometime we just need to acknowledge… “I’m not going to get that thing”… and ask ourselves “can I let it go of it with kindness, forgiveness and love?”